5 December 2013

Fantasy?

Lying with my children last night, between them as usual, at their bedtime, it crossed my mind for the millionth time that they don't chat with me at any other time of day in quite the same way.  It's like they wait until I'm not going anywhere and the only place they're expected to go is to sleep - so they start to tell me everything that I didn't even know I wanted to hear until they're doing it when they shouldn't be.

*Sigh*

It's not for the lack of trying on my part - attempting these conversations at a more appropriate hour - but the little blighters simply won't be seated on our sofas long enough to talk properly when there are always balls to bat / kick / chuck or scooters and bikes to be out on / anything else you can think of to be doing that will surely wear me out.  And even when we put a movie on and are still for a bit - they make it clear that it's not really the time or the place!

Image courtesy IBA. 
Sometimes, the frustration of not wanting to shut them up when they're opening up is allayed by my quiet pretending that we're all lying on sun loungers somewhere warm and friendly and that it's the middle of the afternoon, not heading towards what feels more like the middle of the night, that there's a cocktail on hand and that we're on a holiday, talking about 'The Good,' 'The Bad' and 'The Brilliant' bits of our day, as we are wont at this special time.

This is a wonderful ritual, preventing news of any kind that might otherwise slip through the net in such a lively house from, mostly, being able to - it's very easy for us all to be distracted with Foreign Language Students comings and goings at home as well - and it also gives rise to issuing warnings to one another about shouty behaviour perhaps being the centre feature later on that night - and that works all ways!  It's enormously gratifying to end every day on such positive notes.

So why would I want to get away?  This is the question posed by Mark Warner Holidays who are looking for a few Parent Bloggers to represent them.

It would be to be able to put this fantasy into practice!  To be able to be with the boys without being pulled in other directions quite so often.  To really not be going anywhere so that they could talk to me about their lives without constraint.

So that 'The Good' bits are about all of our adventures - all of our newly acquired or improved sporting skills and interests and the friends we've made, 'The Bad' bits are about falling off a Windsurfer or losing at tennis - which would really tick off the littlest because he's so competitive - and 'The Brilliant' bits really could be shared on sunloungers and into the middle of the night - because that's how long they would take, I just know it!

And if there's a cocktail to hand?

*Sigh*

That's why I would like to be a #MarkWarnerMum :)

[P.S. Voting is still open for the Candis Magazine Parent Blogging Awards we're proudly nominated in, if you think we deserve yours, thank you!].

18 comments:

  1. Great entry. Your busy busy wee men would love a #MarkWarnerMum xxx

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    1. Thank you - yes, it would suit us all down to the ground. I've been on a few BC (before children) and would LOVE to take the kids to enjoy all those sports - you know how active they are! X

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  2. Have you tried making bath time quiter with a candle or dimmer switch, my daughter used to tell me everything when she was in the bath. :)

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    1. Thank you - it works when they're on their own but two boys in the bath together doesn't work the same way!

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  3. If this were a vote - in competition I'd vote for you, you so deserve to be a MW mum and enjoy that lovely time on the beach with your boys and that cocktail. Fingers crossed for you. x

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    1. Thank you so much for that - and it's reminded me to put up a bit about voting in the Magazine Awards that I'm nominated in - yes I would really enjoy that time on the beach with the kids wearing other people out as well! And thank you for crossing your fingers too :)

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  4. I think all kids know how to exercise their right to share right when we want them to go to sleep! The cynic in me says it's a ploy, whilst the Mum in me wants to stay and cuddle up for an hour or two to hear their dreams and fears :)
    Good luck Anya x

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    1. I thought it would be a general law - a bit like them getting up early at the week-ends but lying in on a Monday (!) - and I know the students will often be downstairs waiting to be fed, but I've learned to leave their food out for the microwave so that I don't have to tear myself away from the kids until they're really taking the mick! ;) Thank you, Helen x

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  5. Best of luck Anya and hang on to those cuddles as they're the best in the world, one day they'll be all grown up.

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    1. Thank you Mari - and to you! I fear I hang on to them rather too tightly! ;) x

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  6. Really hope you get to take the boys away Anya, you all deserve it!

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  7. I very much like your fantasy! Fingers crossed... xx

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    1. Mmm, thank you and thank you too :) xx

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  8. The very best of luck lovely.... you and your brood so deserve it. I really enjoyed reading it, and we had exactly the same kinds of holiday talk when we were away last week... the good, the 'bad', the brilliant. X

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    1. Thank you and I wasn't jealous at all, really! Glad to know our influence can spread that far! It's a lot of fun :) X

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  9. My kids used to use chatting at bedtime as a ruse to get to stay up longer. These days, I'm the one going to bed earlier than them! They also found urgent things to say whenever I was on the phone. Used to drive me mad!

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    1. I think there's definitely some rusing going on but I also want to know what's going on in their little minds - especially having two boys because they don't tend to open up so easily and I want them to feel able to and want to as they get older so I find myself torn - and it drives me mad! Not to mention the things that cannot wait once you're on the phone! x

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