3 October 2012

A MAD Imposter.

There is an Award Ceremony each year, presenting prizes in the Mum and Dad blogging arena.  To those in the know it's called the MADS.

It is run by the lady who started the Bloggers' Tots100, Sally Wonder Woman Whittle, a fellow single mum.

It was a truly awesome event, which I very nearly didn't attend, because it didn't seem I really had a right to be there.

I felt like an imposter.  Having been nominated in the early rounds in the 'Inspiring' category, my little blog never made it to the finals.

Tickets for this top notch, fancy 'do' are much coveted and not for sale, but there are some available to win.

Which is how I ended up going.  By fluke.

I was dreading it though.  It was tempting to repeatedly watch my own 'Nobody is a Nobody' Vlog, recorded for those feeling nervous about going to the BritmumsLive conference in June.  Yet, there, at least we'd all bought our tickets and our places were paid for.

Here, if my fabulous boyfriend hadn't insisted on me going, bought me THAT dress and paid for the plush Hotel room, with me not having 'earned' my place, it would definitely have been too daunting.



THAT dress!


Not being a Social Media addict exhaustive enthusiast can give rise to everyone else looking very chummy.  Naturally high about a night out in itself, finalists were also feted by sponsors.  Some were given exquisite outfits and loaned jewellery, plus appointments for professional hair and make up were abounding over Twitter.

It  all adds to the intimidation, although you have to feel sorry for the poor 'Travel' category ones for having to endure a prior sunny evening's party aboard one of those posh yachts, don't you just?!

The best I could manage was tweeting a half hearted joke in a taxi on my way there about possibly winning an Award for the 'Best Boots,' because I'd bagged some great ones at the end of last year and had them on. 

Then there was a breakthrough: ''u do realise we all feel the same - now come show us your fabby boots xx''

A reply from Elaine Colliar Mortgage Free in Three.                  

And I knew I'd be OK.

Our paths hadn't ever crossed before - and they haven't since.  We never actually met, but I was grateful for that teensy bit of encouragement.

It's difficult walking into a room full of strangers, but before I'd even got that far, I'd forgotten that it's possible to feel you know people that you truly don't and I committed the fatal faux-pas of rubbing the very pregnant belly of Susan K Mann in the lift on my way to change.

I'm sorry, Susan. I looked for you to apologise to you personally, but you managed to elude me, deliberately or not!  I was horrified when I remembered that all our contact has been impersonal.  So here's my apology now.  It won't happen again.  Er, it haunts me.

She was very gracious, by the way.  And was stunning.  Everybody looked unbelievably beautiful.  All had gone to town with their appearance and I was proud to be among such crazy, friendly and outgoing, (mostly) warm, wonderful folk.

Ruth from Dorky Mum took me under her wing and Sarah from Grenglish was the most enlightening company for the entire evening, which eventually ended with these two at the bar around 2am.  That's not bad for an outsider. 



Sarah - a perfectly 'bad' influence.


But, most importantly, I had something to contribute after all.  Having had the privilege to meet the scrumptious Myleene Klass - who made a point of saying Hello to each and every table and the famously fabulous Sue Atkins, also a TV regular, who happened to be sat on ours, I was able to offer them some stuff no-one else did.

Both have recently been shocked to find themselves single mums and, despite being clever, capable, gorgeous women, they are unsurprisingly and accordingly devastated.  Their eyes widened when they'd routinely, politely and innocently inquired about the name of my blog and their transparently genuine interest was touching. 

I told them about the groundbreaking Single Mums' Stories series I ran and soon hope to continue, so as well as sympathy, gave them solace and solidarity and, among the giggles, hope.

Perhaps, it was impossible not to have a good time.  Perhaps there's a time and a place for everyone.

So just because you feel like a saddo, it doesn't necessarily make you one.  

A very big thank you to Sally Wonder Woman Whittle for an #incredible occasion - you see there's simply no stopping some single mums - and many massive, heartfelt Congratulations to all the winners (and (no) losers) of the MADS.  

There's a ''Storify' HERE  the morning after the night before, with highlights, photos and quotes. 



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‎MAD Blog Awards‎



36 comments:

  1. I looked for you I truly did - cos I is dead jealous about your funky boots!!!

    Also because I too am an older Single Mum and your tweet from the cab made me appreciate the support that the mad ladies from my site were giving me.

    You look lovely in "that dress" - lovely man LOL. So now we have made contact we can keep in contact - yes???

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    1. Oh Elaine, you made such a difference. Am so sorry I missed you. Even looked for you in the morning but didn't want to stalk your room! Yes, definitely XX

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  2. Sounds like you had a super time, and that dress is fabulous on you. Well done for taking the plunge, and as you could see, everyone has something offer.

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    1. This has ended up down there somewhere! Thank you for all those four kind comments in a couple of sentences. XX

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  3. I don't think we met on the night but I remember seeing your gorgeous dress in a previous post and thinking it was just what I'd been looking for, but hadn't found!

    Great night, wasn't it?

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    1. It was a fabulous night and you're one of the members of royalty on that yacht, right? Poor you ;))

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  4. Cool night out! And you look fabulous in that dress! Polly

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    1. Thank you. Would have loved you to have been there X

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  5. I'm so glad you had a wonderful time - I wish I'd been there.

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    1. Thank you. I thought of you and wished you'd been there too!

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  6. I've been twice now, both as finalist - always the bridesmaid, never the bride ;-) - but even though the finalists get offered nice things, there are plenty of non-finalists who are there who are treated just as nicely once they are there. And yes, all of us feel a little nervous turning up, glammed up or otherwise.

    It was a fantastic night. Myleene was on my table and I had my photo taken with her a few minutes after I found out she was even there! She sat next to me for a lot of the ceremony and patted my arm when I didn't win. She was so lovely, just great with everyone and you didn't feel any of it was fake, she came across as sincere and genuine and interested in everyone.

    Sorry I never got to say hi, but perhaps we'll both be there next year!

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    1. Thank you for that comment. Congratulations and commiserations. Yes, you're right, It was a great night for all and Myleene was lovely. Let's say Hi next time - wherever, whenever!

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  7. I am so pleased you were there. When I saw we were at the same table, I was absolutely thrilled! I suspected it might get a bit messy though... and it did! In the best possible way! You made my night, am sure I would not have had so much fun without you. But the brandy at 2am with Ruth... still makes me feel a bit queasy just thinking about it!
    Look forward to the next one xxxxx

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    1. It's entirely mutual Whenever I see Ruth's name my head hurts! Here's to the next time X

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  8. You look FAB!!!
    gosh, I'd love to win a ticket - both last year and this is sounded like such a fab evening!
    Am really glad you had a wonderful time and with no pressure about winning or losing.

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    1. Thank you. I starved for a good week! I never thought about the lack of pressure - you're right, it made a difference! X

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  9. I am loving reading everyone's take on the evening. I love 'That Dress' and you looked stunning and every bit a lady who should have been there. I was delighted to meet you and you were a natural at conversation, every time I turned around someone new was hanging on your every word!

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    1. Congratulations to you for your win. A delight to meet you even though you've had six kids and are slim as a pencil! So glad we chatted XX

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  10. Glad you had a good night :) I am awful about attending any bloggers things and run for the hills a bit, always good to remember that everyone is in the same boat!

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    1. Thank you - yes you need to have someone to meet first and cling to the whole night! You can cling to me any time X

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  11. How amazing do you look in THAT dress? It was made for you. The shape and the colour are perfect. Well shopped that woman.
    Well done you for being brave enough to go and as always with these things you end up having such a great time, even better because you have those niggling doubts beforehand.
    As I said earlier, I love the way you're putting a protective arm out to Mylene - good on you. You're so supportive.
    Glad you all had a fab time. I must say I did enjoy reading the Tweets (don't think Alex did as he went to bed bored with my lack of company!) I almost had to take an Alka Seltzer just reading them!
    xxx

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    1. The photo was taken especially for you darling! Alka Seltzer was probably a good idea! Hope to catch up with you soon X

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  12. Well I have to say you look STUNNING in that dress - what a fab boyfriend - and kudos to him for encouraging you to go. Sounds like you had a great time - and what a turn up that you won a golden ticket - not an imposter at all - you are well moved by MANY bloggers! XXX

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    1. I am very moved by all these suportive comments, I must say. Thank you so much. Missed you buckets but Grenglish was a blast! XX

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    2. Wasn't really sure what you meant! Ta so much X

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  13. You looked gorgeous, and I was thrilled to see you - I just wish I'd chatted to you lots more when I was still sober. It's always a treat to see you, you're such a positive bit of energy in a room (and I mean that in the nicest way possible). You were most definitely not an imposter.
    PS I introduced myself to everyone in the vicinity at one point and totally overlooked Susan K Mann - she had to say, "And I'm pleased to meet you too" - so I think my sin was worse than yours. I'm so in awe of her online, I can't believe I missed the chance to present myself in a good light!

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    1. I'm not sure if I've ever met you sober, Helen?! ;)) Thank you for such kind comments. Poor Susan Mann - being touched up and ignored. Good job she takes it all in good spirit!

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  14. You look fab. What a lovely man you have there, encouraging you to go, buying the dress and paying for the hotel room. Hold on to him! Glad you had a lovely evening, and well done you on having the guts to walk into that room full of people. I think I would have bottled it. So, glad you had a wonderful evening. x

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    1. That or he was just glad to get rid of me for an evening! TBH he's v supportive. You just need a mate and then you're fine! The more events you go to, the more people you meet and you only need one! Hope to meet you at one of them, one day, bump and all XX

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  15. Ahhh Anya it sounds like you had a fabulous time! You looked stunning and deserved a lovely plush evening out. Great post!x

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  16. Ahh Lynsey. Thank you so much. Missed you and Older Mum though. Hopefully catch up soon X

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  17. I was there tooooo!! I wish I'd found you to come say hello but I have to admit ive only just discovered your blog. You look stunning though!! Maybe next year huj? ;)

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    1. It would be lovely to meet you in person - anytime!

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  18. Don't be silly lovely, I never gave it a second thought. I did look for you again and saw you across the room at some point but never managed to get a chance to speak to you again. You looked amazing and I'm pleased to have met you. Hugs x

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    1. You're so kind. I'm so glad. It only hit me afterwards! It was a pleasure to meet you too. Thank you x

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