8 May 2015

The Non Sitting Room.

It occurred to me recently that my sitting room is actually a room where I rarely get to sit.

It has thus been re-christened the 'Non-Sitting Room.'

Even though there are piles of books and magazines and my intentions are good and I've managed to rid it of the toys that were in it - tubs of train track, Scaletrix, building blocks, a child's desk, copious drawing materials and Play Doh - so that the atmosphere would feel less like a play room and more like one for actually relaxing and, erm, sitting in, it gets to the end of almost every day and I find myself going in only to turn off the lamps and tell myself off for not having got around to actually having parked myself in there.

It's where the TV resides, so you'd think that would be an attraction, but that's something that really only comes on at week-ends for the kids.  I try to sit with them and watch Britain's Got Talent or a movie but will be on the go cooking or ironing or faffing still.  Switching off completely and sitting on the sofa to read and / or listen to music is generally just in my dreams.  It could be said that I don't really lounge in my lounge!

And an ex-boyfriend's mother used to tell me that airports had lounges, not houses.  She instilled in me the need to say 'Sitting room.'

This is a habit that many years later I still don't dare to break, but the much more recently acquired one is that I get tethered to the lap top in the coldest room in the house - our kitchen with the, you know, 'I'll just take a look at my messages' ten minutes that turns into two hours, instead of picking it up and sticking it where it belongs - on top of my lap in my newly inviting sitting room.

This comes with a bonus of raising my legs onto what used to be known as a pouffe, but is now more fashionably only ever called a footstool or storage stool.  It even houses the blankets for extra comfort - but I suffer from that peculiarly British female thing of feeling guilt induced wretchedness if  we're not running around or doing something constructive - even if it's just writing or reading work related stuff.

Also, my lap top has actrually seen better days and I've been resisting the need for a new one - mainly because it will come with a whole new operating system to get my head around. I've had a gander at a Guide to Windows 8 though - which is what it would be - and it actually looks really exciting!

Although you can still use it in the traditional manner of a mouse and keyboard - it incorporates the touch screen technology we're now used to on our smartphones and tablets.  There is talk of Tiles and chat about a Charms Bar and, most importantly, there are improved parental controls - which, in our house, are looking increasingly urgent as the eldest becomes amazingly proficient.  You can pinch, expand and swipe and I'm going to have to face it and keep learning and, for this, comfort is going to be key - or,at my age, even crucial!

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My new babies!

Plus, there are these little babies on the left to devour and I am particularly looking forward to Joanne Mallon's Social Media for Writers,

She's such an authoritave but humorous author, and the bits I've dipped into already speak as though she's reading my mind!  Having contributed to her first book and knowing her as I do, because she lives in Brighton, I'm a loyal fan and can hear her thoughtful and intelligent but self- deprecating tone telling it like it is. Those of us who buy / have bought the book are in for a treat.

There is every good guilt-free reason, therefore, to break my bad habit of not sitting in my non-sitting room.  There are some sofas in there with my name on - although, not literally, obviously - that would be weird.  

So I'm going in!   



What kind of  bad habits have you inadvertently developed?

Disclosure - This is a partly collaborative post for Tesco.  The other part is me having a stern word with myself and the other bit about Joanne's book is just genuine goodwill.

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11 comments:

  1. Banish guilt from your life. It is toxic and does you no good at all. Do what you have to do, then do what you want to do. :)

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    1. Ooh that living in France has rubbed off on you! I bet the French don't feel guilty at all. I love their 'working between meals' attitude and must say it might suit us all better. I've noticed on my various travels over the years that it is a peculiarly British thing and really not healthy, but habits are hard to break. I live your advice and have been telling myself it today. I might print it off and pop it up in the kitchen, thank you :)

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  2. I have no idea how you cram so much into each and every day - but it's a shame you don't get to reward yourself with time off more often. I gave up ironing over a year ago and no one has even noticed! You could aways try it and use the time to relax with a glass of wine instead.

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    1. Good for you, Izzie! I only iron my white summer trousers. I don't iron anything else all year. The boys don't care, and my everyday clothes are the sort that can be folded and put away without ironing. If my eldest wants something ironed, he does it himself now (a rarity).

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    2. Good for both of you! I have definitely cut back but once those school sweatshirts come off in the nicer weather I feel awful if the boys' polo shirts are creased - not that it stops it happening (often) tbh! Izzie, I remember once having a couple of glasses of wine and waking up to see my ironing had been done and had forgotten doing it! As for the cramming, lots of stuff gets left - more so than ever lately now the kids are up later and I end up going to bed early. X

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  3. It's such a nice concept isn't it? The 'sitting room' - I mean a room you just sit in and do nothing. I can't remember the last time I sat down and didn't write! I don't really 'sit' in my sitting room either - I'm usually plumping up the cushions from where the others have sat! X

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    1. Let's each slap our own wrists and encourage each other to do more sitting in our sitting room! X

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  4. You should definitiely scrabbel some time in the diary each week and make sure you just sit down and relax and do whateer you fancy. It is really good for you. Mich x

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    1. Yes, Mich. I shall. *scribbles note to self* XX

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  5. I have taken to allowing myself a little sit down during the day when I'm the only one in the house. Yesterday, for example, I was up at about 6.30am and (apart from an hour watching "Transparent" on Amazon Prime) I was still going at almost 10pm when I remembered a load in the dryer. I'm too old for all this!

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  6. Ah now ours is a living room and it certainly is a living room with a very battered sofa and a well-worn chair. I do get to sit down in it occasionally, usually at the end of the evening when I am too tired to do anything else. I am reading Joanne's book and it is fascinating, I am really enjoying it

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