14 November 2011

Randy Workmen.

‘You can suck my willy next time!’ said next door’s workman.

All I could think was that I didn’t need anything else to do and then he was gone before I could tell him to F*** off, so taken aback I was by his ‘invitation.’

He had been round for a cup of tea a few times, changed some kitchen light transformers for me, charged me fifty quid, thank you very much and taken to sending the odd text which wasn’t about when I was going to be in.

I was flattered, it has to be said.  A husband who neglected me and regularly insulted me had knocked my confidence and in the absence of any other attention, a man much younger than me – not an ugly or fat or bald one – was becoming a bit fresh. 

The most disturbing thing of all was how he had harped on about his two beautiful daughters, one of whom was going to be starting the same school that my eldest son attends.

Was the man mad then?  He was married – not unhappily it transpired – to his first love and was regretting not having sewn wild oats.  Did he target bored housewives, I had asked him, lonely single mums, vulnerable women in general?  What about his wife?  His kids?  Had he not seen Fatal Attraction?

He had talked football with my two boys prior to this encounter and I flirted with the idea of how nice it would be to have a man around, but it was never, ever going to be him.  I thought he'd got it. 

This was a while ago and now I have a boyfriend – intelligent, decent, loyal - everything he isn’t, yet I still see him around i.e. at school drop offs and pick ups and I wonder every time why, when a man who has everything – a good business, a lovely home and family - they are so intent on bolloxing it all up. 

And I think of the women they leave behind.  And the children whose lives they might also possibly forever blight with with a great deal of pain.  I think of what a wanker my Dad was and what sort of idiot preys on the poor desperate people who sometimes feel they’d do anything for a hug, but the truth is, when the push comes to shove, actually, most of us won’t.  

This was obviously not the first or last time he was trying his luck and perhaps my friendliness and need for him not to leave me in the lurch, plus talk of my divorce had given off signs he read wrongly, but,surely, I am not the only one to land such surprising advances from, say, a randy workman?

19 comments:

  1. Ooo the cheeky bugger ! No wayward advances by any man so far this year.
    Boo Hoo!

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  2. What a very odd thing to say someone and very leery. Actually rather unpleasant indeed. He seems desperate, certainly not the females he's preying upon. The truth is most men never grow up fully. Boundaries. Yuk. Your new man sounds lovely.

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  3. Shame you didn't have a lightening puke reaction. Projectile vomit all over his crotch would have been the appropriate response I feel.

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  4. I think that some men will take the opportunity wherever they think it is - regardless of their own circumstances.
    More than a couple of times over the years, I have been surprised by propositions from colleagues.

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  5. Sorry for the delay. Still struggling to respond / get placed comments on this blog. Thank you all for your support. Mammasaurus - you know I think you should start that dancing you vlogged, but prob best save it for hfessed up to giving him! Older Mum - You summed it all up beautifully!
    The other Sarah - Wish I'd written that myself!
    Ellen - I know what you mean - and we don't always see it coming! Glad there are some good ones about still tho.

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  6. Sorry Mammasaurus - got bit cut off - I meant to say that if you save that dancing you blogged for your hubby - he may well end up with one of those thumbs up you confessed to giving him once!

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  7. Crikey. I'd have been terrified. Having said that, I miss my glory days when the odd edifying wolf whistle would drift down from scaffolding. Now builders just tell me; "Cheer up! It might never happen!'

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  8. Sorry for delay MAMatron - have to get to a different computer to put comments on my own blog. Yes, I identify with you completely on that. They are in a no win position - from a distance! Too close for comfort and it is, indeed, scary!

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  9. That is one thing I don't miss about being a single parent - it was like they thought because I'd had a child they thought I must be gagging for it. Those poor children, wonder if his wife is aware.

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  10. What a sad, sad man. They can be right idiots at times. It bugs me when men make comments like that, as if he's so wonderful that you would feel fortunate to have the opportunity to suck his willy! Eww!! Bet it's small too ;-)

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  11. To pinkoddy and Joanne, you might have gathered I have trouble commenting on my own blog, so sorry for the delay. I do appreciate your comments and obviously you are both right in what you are saying. It was a bit of a shock! And I wasn't grateful for the offer at all! X

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  12. Some men are sooo juvenile aren't they? And I bet some just say it to get a reaction and would probably run a mile if we replied "go on then"...not that I ever would, you understand. Just a theory. (That I would never test out!). Actually I would probably run away if a stranger said that to me!

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    1. I wouldn't have liked to test out that theory tbh but you never know!

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  13. That's his idea of a chat up line? My response to that would be "If you had met me in a bar would that be your opening line?"

    Or

    "thanks, and what do I get out of this 'relationship' "?

    What a dick.

    Literally

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    1. Literally. At least he didn't stand in the kitchen with IT out like my ex-husband used to. Blogged about that somewhere X

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  14. You know, I wouldn't have a clue about what to do in that situation. What I would say though, is that anyone who approaches you or talks to you in that manner, clearly has a complete lack of respect. I wouldn't even let my OH talk to me like that!

    He sounds like an incredibly sad man, with a severe case of egotism if you ask me.

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  15. What a horribly sad man. I feel so sorry for his family. Lets hope he gets his comeuppance one day :)

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    1. He's never seen Fatal Attraction so it's inevitable!

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