29 April 2015

Precious.

Image from Joy of Dad.
I've had a post in my head for a while, meaning to thank all my loyal commenters.  I think you're all amazing and I appreciate every single one of you every single time that you take the time to tell me your thoughts on something I've written, when you support me at times things are extra tough and especially when you pitch up to take the mickey out of me even more than I do it myself!  Thank you all.

Thank you, too, to those of you who loyally read and make comment elsewhere or don't even comment at all.  For every 100 readers down I might be compared to other bloggers, I have another fabulous follower like you who's really there and really cares and I appreciate you more than you might imagine too.

I try to keep up with you all, I really do.  I love to catch up with all your posts when I'm over at yours - I don't just return for the sake of it.  I'm not around as much with two lovely students who *shock* actually want to be part of the family lately (read make as many demands as my own two kids do!) and as the children get older, there is less free time full stop.  (Now THAT was a really weird experience - typing out the words FULL STOP rather than just doing one!).

I'm sorry it's taken until today to say what I've been meaning to say for a while.  It hasn't escaped my notice that you even seem to be understanding as well as still supportive of any collaborative posts I write, despite the balance not really being what it ideally should be vs. personal posts.  I know that you know I still write from the heart and keep things real and that I do my best despite very trying circumstances.

I do not feel judged here, which is what blogging is supposed to be - a safe space.  We can only do what we can do.  I am regretful that things have changed since I got concussed and other things have cropped up - stuff that is entirely related to being a single parent - and that it often gets in the way.   If I were to write about my daily life in a way that others do, you would have endured lots of moaning about how overwhelmed I am most of the time, how hard it is to co-parent with a shitty ex, what a disappointment I felt Caitlin Moran's Raised by Wolves sit com (based on a single parent in Wolverhampton) was and you would have naffed off.  Instead, because you are precious, less is more, at times like this people, methinks!

Plus, what I love most - especially about you, my lovely lot - is that it is a mighty relief to go over to your blogs and not find that I've missed a zillion posts and have to trawl through them to catch up.  As our blogs grow, more commitments come and keeping up with our friends must remain a pleasure, not a chore.  And friends, some of you have become.  Thank you for your friendship too.

You have made a lonely time less so.  Your belief in me has helped me believe in me.  You make a difference.

Thank you as well to those of you who nominated me and got Older Single Mum shortlisted in this year's Brilliance in Blogging Awards in the Best Writer category, I am very, very touched.  But you are the brilliant ones - my loyal, lovely, amazing followers.  And I include you, my real life, non blogging ones too. Thank you for always being there.  You rock.

Anya XX

32 comments:

  1. Please know that I may not often comment, but I do always read your posts, and appreciate how hard things must be for you on a daily basis.
    Joy x x
    p.s. I was disappointed with CMs series too, despite nearly always loving her other writings.

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    1. Thank you Joy - I know you're there and thank you for understanding. So pleased to know I'm not alone with the CM thing too! xx

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  2. Nice one, Anya. Well said. :)

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    1. Thank you Sarah. And I never forget that you were one of my first and have remained faithful for years - that I thought you were someone else for ages and always returned to the wrong blog and left comment there instead, but still you kept coming back and even gave me one of the first Single Mums' Stories! You are one of my most amazing followers, thank you :)XX

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    2. Oh, what a treasure. :) xx

      I'm very impressed how you've progressed with your blog.

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    3. And it wouldn't have happened without your consistent encouragement, thank you x

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  3. You are fabulous.

    That really is all

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  4. Beautiful sentiments here, well done darling on your nomination, I always love seeing you at the Bibs, you are a complete ray of sunshine and a joy to read and be around, good luck sweetie x

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    1. Thank you darling - so sweet. Congrats to you too and look fwd to seeing you there regardless of whether I get to the finals X

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  5. What a lovely post lovely dear friend.... I think the whole blogging world knows how fab you are. Well deserved, and all fingers crossed! X

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    1. You are so kind! (Perhaps deluded, but kind lol!) Lots of love dearest friend X

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  6. Oh Anya, you are so sweet and I am more than delighted that you came into my life via social media. Some say you can't make friends this way but I have. We may not sit down for coffee together, but that doesn't stop us from having amazing conversations, and supporting each other. One day hopefully we will be able to meet, and it will be just like old friends who haven't seen each other for a while.

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  7. Thank you for such a lovely comment, Catherine. I think it's amazing how we can support each other from such a distance and feel real friendship despite not having met! It would be wonderful to meet you one day and I agree that it would feel exactly like that! X

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  8. Thank you lovely Anya, I have a feeling that if we knew each other in real life we'd get along as though we'd known one another for a lifetime. I am so happy you made the shortlist for Best Writer in the BiBs - well deserved and I hope that you get into the final this year.
    I may not be a single parent, but I am in awe of anyone who is and I have no idea how you find the time to write such inspiring posts, but I'm so grateful that you do x

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    1. Thank you for such kind words. You know you were one of the people I had in mind when I wrote this. You're a real support, thank you xx

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  9. So good to see you there Anya. Happy to be one of your mates and so glad our kids are getting to grow close too. Mich x

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    1. Thank you so much Mich. You're a good mate and it's lovely to see the kids enjoying each other. See you soon xx

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  10. Huge congratulations, and a lovely post to read as I start to try and catch up again, after juggling too much for too long - I finding the time to enjoy reading the blogs I've grown up with once more x

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    1. You're a victim of your own success Penny! Thank you lovely. Proud to call you a mate too x

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  11. Congrats honey and big hugs xx

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  12. You write so beautifully Anya, your nomination is no surprise. Good luck! Xx

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    1. You're so kind, thank you. I honestly can't believe it! x

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  13. Lovely post and good luck for the awards. xxx

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  14. Awwwwww ... i thought you have more time as children grow up ... o my word!

    Congratulations no your nomination and thanks for hosting #MBPW. It sure is good to stop and think about those who read what we write. Readers give so much more than they could ever know to so many bloggers. :-)

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    1. IKWYM - a bit of a shock comes with their ages! Thank you for your lovely comment :0 xx

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  15. Love your post, Anya, you can feel how much it comes from the heart.
    Thank you for being you and for sharing with us (and for the mention on Twitter, I was really touched).
    It will be lovely to see you again in London in June. xx

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